Have you ever noticed that some people seem naturally happy the vast majority of the time, while most of us have our ups and downs, but generally stay in a mediocre state? Even as we eat healthy, study spiritual practices and learn how to put ourselves in a positive place, for most of us, it doesn’t seem to last. We make an effort to get there, and then shortly after we stop focusing, we find ourselves back in the same old mood.
There are a couple of reasons for this. First of all, an extremely common subconscious belief for people is that they are unhappy. If you have ever felt that you were truly unhappy at any time in your life, this could very well be the case with you. Even if you have not felt this way, your subconscious mind may still hold this belief. To test yourself, say the words, “I am happy,” and take note of your emotional response. If you do not totally resinate and feel good about this statement, then you need work. You can turn this around with hypnosis, self-hypnosis, PSYCHE-K, or the Emotional Freedom Technique (EFT). To do this using self-hypnosis, while you are meditating, falling asleep or perhaps waking up, repeat the following affirmation to yourself: “I am happy in every sense of the word.” You may want to do this on more than one occasion. Then take note of your over-all results or your new emotional response to the same initial statement. You may also want to do this using the phrase, “I love myself unconditionally,” as this is another common phrase the subconscious mind tends to disagree with, and probably the most important belief to create physical and mental health.
Another reason we have trouble permanently changing our way of being is because of the way our brains work. The more we think of a particular story from our past, the easier it becomes to recall, because that groove in the brain has deepened, just as water continuously flowing in the same direction creates a larger groove for a river formation. This is also true with the way we feel. If we are used to feeling discontentment, misery, or anything less than bliss, then we cannot just jump to bliss and make it our normal state of being. We need to re-wire our brains. We need to get used to feeling happy.
Consciously put yourself in a good place as much as possible, and as time goes on, that new state of being will become more natural. This takes time. Don’t get frustrated and give up. You really are doing yourself a favor by always feeling as good as you possibly can. This also takes will. Will has resulted in amazing accomplishments, including healing deadly illnesses. It is certainly capable of making you happy. Decide that you will do this. Make a conscious effort to get to this state several times a day, giving yourself valid reasons to believe you are happy. Then watch yourself gradually blossom into a naturally happier being.
About the author
Vicki Luibrand is a hypnotherapist, certified by the National Guild of Hypnotists (NGH), and has a Doctor of Divinity in Spiritual Healing Arts. She guides people to heal themselves both physically and mentally by finding and releasing buried emotions in the subconscious mind. For more information, go to http://www.believeinhealth.biz.